I wanted to write this piece after going on my friend’s hen-do to Cardiff a few weeks ago. In fact, this year for me is quite a busy one in terms of weddings and hen-dos. I think this happens when you reach a certain age…(ahem!)
Anyway, this particular hen-do was great because it showed me how it was possible to “bend the rules” and make things much more cost effective for everyone who attends. I think there is a trend now for hen-dos to become quite showy expensive affairs, and its such a relief that I have friends who are sensible enough to make it less expensive!
Although saying that though, I found some fab bloggers who beat our costs by miles!!
According to a survey by Banana Moon, in the UK we pay around £507 per event per person.
Does that shock you?
It certainly shocked me. But when I think about it, this is not far off the mark. When you factor in a new outfit +/- fancy dress, alcohol, accommodation and activities, the price really does add up.
So I thought it would be fun to ask other bloggers and followers of The Female Money Doctor what they did on their hen-dos to keep costs low, but WITHOUT necessarily compromising on the fun aspects of the day.
But first – would you like to see the evidence from the Cardiff hen-do?
Of course you would.
My Cardiff Experience
So the first saving I made was to avoid getting public transport.
From Milton Keynes to Cardiff, I would have had to shell out a whopping £120 in train tickets. This was compared to £70 in fuel for my car (which still left me with some left over). The moral of that story – explore ALL your transport options first before taking the plunge. If you’re all coming from the same location, why not hire a mini-bus (or a limo….but remember we’re trying to keep it cheap!!). It depends on how many of you are travelling together. There is certainly strength in numbers.
The next thing we did was a life-drawing class. My friend had explored the cost of this a while ago and had come to the conclusion that life-drawing is pretty expensive. This is because paying for the model, the materials, the venue and the class tutor all became quite costly, especially as there was only 4 of us. We were quoted £66 per person.
She managed to reduce the cost by bringing materials from home (her mum had plenty of art materials for us to use, and we self-directed the class. The cost came to £35 per head. Our model had also found us a cheaper venue, which in hindsight was a little odd (a community centre that kicked us out as soon as our time was up for a kiddies kickboxing class), but we had fun anyway….
….This may have been helped by Aldi’s £12.99 magnum of prosecco, which is really good by the way (you’re welcome).
What Else Did We Do?
Instead of a hotel, we hired out an air bnb. We each had our own bed, and could keep costs low by eating in the flat and pre-drinking (with another magnum of course!). We also did a cocktail making class (which included A LOT of food) and had a karaoke session.
Our outfits consisted of our own going-out (out) clothes and a manga wig. This saved on cost too!
All in all, it cost us £121 each – this was for the accommodation and all the activities (which the hen didn’t have to pay for). I spent an extra £26 on prosecco, £12 on taxis and £70 on petrol. I also spent £50 on drinks and food, plus £10 on the wig. This came to £289. Now this may seem like a lot, but in comparison to the UK average, this was pretty cheap, and I really don’t feel like we compromised on fun at all.
So What Have Other Bloggers Done?
I asked some other bloggers to give me their experience of hen dos they have been on, and there were some fab responses (who came in way cheaper than we did!!).
I kept it super low key & went for a wonderful afternoon tea. We drank champagne, ate far too much cake & it ended up costing around £27 a head. ☺
www.cakevsscales.com – Katie Groome
I think that’s a phenomenal effort! Champagne for less than £30 per head?! I’m in! With a cost like that, it’s sure to keep everyone happy. Look out for deals on sites like groupon, and you may also find a cheap spa day to go alongside the afternoon tea. It’s worth doing the research and seeing what’s out there.
I was pregnant on my hen do (shock horror) so it was never going to be a wild one. Around 15 of us headed to Bournemouth for a one night in a nice hotel. We had dinner, went to a casino for a blackjack lesson then went to a club. The next day was beautiful sunshine so we went to the beach. It cost around £120 per person including hotel, dinner, casino and club entry.
www.mrsmummypenny.co.uk – Lynn James
Another amazing blogger who kept it frugal and fun! I think pregnancy can definitely make things cheaper – even if it’s because you’re not drinking and probably don’t want to be out late!! Blackjack is an interesting idea for a hen do and not something I thought about!
I went went to the pub for lunch, then for ice cream, and then bowling. Lovely day out, didn’t cost much at all really ? (in fact my wedding only cost £1700).
https://www.thefamilypatch.com/a-happy-hen/ – Amanda Shortman
A wedding for only £1700?? Wow!! I wrote a post last year about the average cost of weddings in the UK, and it’s safe to say that Amanda’s definitely comes in at less than 10% of this!! This hen do is yet more evidence that cost needn’t be a limiting factor to having fun!
I organised my friends hen do and she was pregnant at the time so wanted something low key. We booked a table at the local Chinese as that’s what the Bride to Be wanted but we surprised her with matching T Shirts and a Limo tour of all her old haunts and special places on the way there. She loved it because it was thoughtful and personal and it was a brilliant night
https://www.happymummy.co.uk – Maria Hughes
I love the idea of matching t-shirts and a limo ride! These little touches are often the things that matter the most to a bride to be. We played a game with our bride – she had to guess the answers to questions we had previously put to her future husband. If she guessed right, one of us had to take a shot. If she guessed wrong, she had to do it (or nominate one of us). Silly, childish, but cheap and funny (especially when future hubby lies to catch her out!!).
I didn’t want to spend a lot on my hen night so I just went out for a meal to TGI’s with close family and friends. I bought a cheap ‘dare’ game off eBay which we played, it was so much fun! We also had a low cost wedding so we could spend all the money we had saved on an amazing honeymoon in Mexico. Best decision ever.
www.timeandpence.com – Michelle Bailey
Spending money on a decent honeymoon rather than splurge on a hen-do = brilliant idea. You could also use Pinterest as a source of inspiration.
Thank you ladies for your stories and tips! Check out hitched.co.uk for EVEN MORE ideas!
Ideas for stag-dos
I think stags also have the same problem, in that the temptation is there to overspend on a stag-do (perhaps more?). Whenever I watch “Don’t Tell The Bride” on TV, it always seems to be that the groom runs out of money because they blew the budget on the stag-do. But does it really have to be this way?
I think it comes down to complexity. The more stuff that gets added in, obviously this then puts the price up. Consider cheaper accommodation, having the stag-do in the UK and choosing cheaper activities. Iamthebestman.co.uk has loads of ideas and I love how they are organised into cost.
Over To You
What tips do you have? Maybe you’ve been even more frugal and have some fabulous ideas to share. Comment below!!
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